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Love, Starting Over

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Love, Starting Over

Learning About the Heart Through Relationships

AuthorRiver is LandPublisherMaeum OS Inc.

Reflections on our relationships with ourselves and others explore love, expectations, grief, letting go, and healthy boundaries.

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Three key ideas in this book

A short summary of the author’s perspective, drawn from the published book.

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Letting go can preserve distance

The author separates inner letting go from reconciliation. After violence or abuse, the book puts safety first and never requires returning.

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Look beneath apparent peace

The author calls the habitual swallowing of difficult feelings “false peace,” asking readers to notice the unspoken tensions beneath a calm surface.

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Boundaries are self-respect

The author compares a boundary to a fence with a gate: a way to make personal limits clear while respecting yourself and others.

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Letting go and restoring a relationship are entirely different. You can let go without meeting, contacting, or ever letting them into your life again. Some relationships rightly end; others are safer at a distance. Letting go happens inside. It is not a demand to change the relationship’s form.

Sequence 9 · The Moment You Let Go, You Become Free

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Full contents

Based on the book’s contents. Verified entries link to their corresponding PDF pages.
Page numbers refer to PDF pages, including the cover.

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  1. Pre-Boot11
  2. Before You Begin11
  3. [Preface] We Were Never Taught How to Love15
  4. Sequence 1 The Person You Have Been With the Longest21
  5. The Person You Have Been With the Longest23
  6. Sequence 2 They Came to Show You Yourself41
  7. They Came to Show You Yourself43
  8. Sequence 3 The Heart That Expects Nothing Is the Strongest59
  9. The Heart That Expects Nothing Is the Strongest61
  10. Sequence 4 Give First What You Wish to Receive80
  11. Give First What You Wish to Receive82
  12. Sequence 5 To You Who Have Been Afraid of Love97
  13. To You Who Have Been Afraid of Love99
  14. Sequence 6 The Deepest Love Lives Where It Hurts the Most115
  15. The Deepest Love Lives Where It Hurts the Most117
  16. Sequence 7 Those Who Can Let Go Have Truly Loved132
  17. Those Who Can Let Go Have Truly Loved134
  18. Sequence 8 Unwept Grief Does Not Disappear147
  19. Unwept Grief Does Not Disappear149
  20. Sequence 9 The Moment You Let Go, You Become Free164
  21. The Moment You Let Go, You Become Free166
  22. Sequence 10 If You Can Wish Them Well, You Are Already Free178
  23. If You Can Wish Them Well, You Are Already Free180
  24. Sequence 11 Water Wears Through Rock Without a Fight195
  25. Water Wears Through Rock Without a Fight197
  26. Sequence 12 They Probably Had Their Reasons, Too214
  27. They Probably Had Their Reasons, Too216
  28. Sequence 13 When You Bow Your Head, You See More232
  29. When You Bow Your Head, You See More234
  30. Sequence 14 A Flower Will Not Bloom Sooner Because You Urge It To248
  31. A Flower Will Not Bloom Sooner Because You Urge It To250
  32. Sequence 15 A Few Words Can Save Someone263
  33. A Few Words Can Save Someone265
  34. Sequence 16 A False Peace Eventually Falls Apart278
  35. A False Peace Eventually Falls Apart280
  36. Sequence 17 On a Lonely Night, You Are Not the Only One292
  37. On a Lonely Night, You Are Not the Only One294
  38. Sequence 18 What Your Envy Is Trying to Tell You306
  39. What Your Envy Is Trying to Tell You308
  40. Sequence 19 It Is Okay to Say No319
  41. It Is Okay to Say No321
  42. Sequence 20 Someone Whose Presence Gives You Strength332
  43. Someone Whose Presence Gives You Strength334
  44. Sequence 21 When You Change, a Whole World Changes345
  45. When You Change, a Whole World Changes347
  46. [Epilogue] It Is Okay to Be Clumsy at Love359
  47. A Letter to the Reader365

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Begin where your heart is

Part 1Engineering of Reality CreationThe author uses engineering metaphors to explore a philosophical view of life through self-observation, emotion, language, and intention.Part 2It's Okay. All of It.From morning to night, reflections on everyday life explore fear, pausing, awareness, gratitude, and self-acceptance.

Reading note: scientific and technical terms in the books include the author's metaphors and interpretations. These introductions summarize that perspective.